#TalkAboutItTuesday – 8 Behaviors of Phenomenally Successful People! Courtesy of @Inc

Being successful is a choice. Below, Jeff Haden provides 8 behaviors of Phenomenally Successful People.

You can be an analytical, data-driven, steely-eyed businessperson all you like, but business is ultimately about people.

That means business is also about emotions: yours and those of the people you interact with every day.

Incredibly successful people make a huge difference not just in their own lives but also in the lives of the people they care about, both professionally and personally.

Here’s how:

1. They answer the unasked question.

Maybe she’s hesitant. Maybe he’s insecure, or shy. Whatever the reason, people often ask a different question than the one they really want you to answer.

One employee might ask if you think he should take a few business classes; what he really wants to know is whether you see him as able to grow in the organization. He hopes the answer is yes, and he hopes you’ll share the reasons why.

Your husband might ask if you thought the woman at the party was flirting with him; what he really wants to know is if you still think he’s flirt-worthy and whether you still find him attractive. He hopes you’ll say you do, and he’ll love it when you share the reasons why.

Behind many questions is an unasked question.

Pay attention to that question, too, because that’s the one the other person might really need answered.

2. They refuse to wait.

You don’t have to wait to be discovered. You don’t have to wait for an okay. You don’t have to wait for someone else to help you.

You can try to do whatever you want to do right now. You may not succeed. But you don’t have to wait.

Don’t wait.

3. They appreciate the unappreciated.

Some jobs require more effort than skill. Bagging groceries, delivering packages, checking out customers — the tasks are relatively easy. The difference is in the effort.

Do more than say thanks to someone who does a thankless job. Smile. Make eye contact. Exchange a kind word.

All around you are people who work hard with little or no recognition. Vow to be the person who recognizes at least one of them every day.

Not only will you give respect, you’ll earn the best kind of respect in return — the respect that comes from making a difference, however fleeting, in another person’s life.

4. They give latitude instead of direction.

You’re in charge. You know what to do. So it’s natural to tell your employees what to do and how to do it. But in the process you’ll stifle their creativity and discount their skills and experience.

Letting another person decide how is the best way to show you respect their abilities and trust their judgment.

In a command-and-control world, latitude is a breath of freedom and is a gift anyone can give.

5. They stop and smell their roses.

You have big plans. You have big goals. You’re never satisfied, because satisfaction breeds complacency.

So most of the time you’re unhappy, because you think more about what you have not achieved, have not done, and do not have.

Take a moment to think about what you do have, professionally and especially personally. At this moment you have more than you once ever thought possible.

Sure, always strive for more but don’t forget to take a moment to realize that all the things you have, especially your relationships, are more important than anything you want to have.

Unlike a want, what you have isn’t a hope, a wish, or a dream. What you already have is real.

And it’s awesome. And it’s yours.

Appreciate it.

6. They look beneath the surface.

Sometimes people make mistakes. Sometimes they piss you off.

When that happens it’s natural to assume they didn’t listen or didn’t care. But often there’s a deeper reason. They may feel stifled. They may feel they have no control. They may feel frustrated or marginalized or ignored or not cared for.

If you’re in charge, whether at work or home, you may need to deal with their mistake. But then look past the action for the underlying issues.

Anyone can dole out discipline; vow to provide understanding, empathy, and to help the other person deal with the larger issue that led to the mistake.

After all, you might have caused the issue.

7. They make love a verb.

You love your work. When you’re working, that feeling shows in everything you say and do.

Hmm.

Love is a feeling, and feelings are often selfish. Turn your feelings into action. Actively love the people you love. Show them you love them by words and deeds.

When you make love a verb, the people you care about know exactly how you feel. Make sure they do.

8. They try only to be themselves.

You worry about what other people think. (Don’t feel bad — I’m sure I do that as much as anyone.) Yet no matter how hard you try, you can’t be all things to all people.

But you can be as many things as possible to the people you love.

And you can be the best you.

Be yourself. That is the one thing you can do better than anyone else.

Do you agree?

Source: Inc.com

#BHM #Fact – #OnThisDay February 6 in 1993, #TennisGreat #ArthurAshe passed away.

Celebrating Black History Month (BHM). Let’s take a moment to recognize those who had the courage and confidence to ‘take a chance’ in their own abilities.

On this day, (Feb 6th), in 1993, Arthur Robert Ashe Jr. passed away. Who is Arthur Ashe you ask?  An American World No. 1 professional tennis player who won three Grand Slam titles, ranking him among the best tennis players from the United States.

In 1963 Ashe became the first black player ever selected for the United States Davis Cup team. In 1965, ranked the number 3 player in the United States, Ashe won both the National Collegiate Athletic Association (NCAA) singles title and the doubles title (with Ian Crookenden of New Zealand), helping UCLA win the team NCAA tennis championship.1

Arthur was one of many individuals whose passion lead him to higher heights.  With a courageous heart he #Manifested his Greatness in all that he set out to achieve.  Read more about him today. http://www.arthurashe.org/

#TheMoreYouKnow

1 Source: Wikipedia

My #HappyNewYear Message to you all – #2015 is going to be #Epic – I can feel it!

Thank You - 2015

To all those who have touched my life from tweeting, liking, emailing, reading my writings and best of all, calling me on a crazy invention called ‘the phone’ and sharing the greatest gift one can give – your time...

I see and appreciate you and I wish in 2015, you receive an overflow of happiness, joy, love, laughter, strength and courage wrapped in blessings of abundance, prosperity and peace.

I pray you keep your heart and mind filled with the knowledge that God has something big in store for you – 2015 is your year!

KSD

2014 in review

I would like to thank everyone who reads my blog and for keeping me motivated.

The WordPress.com stats helper monkeys prepared a 2014 annual report for this blog.

Here's an excerpt:

A San Francisco cable car holds 60 people. This blog was viewed about 650 times in 2014. If it were a cable car, it would take about 11 trips to carry that many people.

Click here to see the complete report.

Find ways to #motivate yourself everyday!

Stay motivated in everything that you do.

Always challenge yourself so you can keep evolving.

Evolution equals living.

If you’ve never failed then you’ve never lived.

Many great people failed yet achieved more than they imagined. That’s because their set backs were a set up for greatness!

True failure is when one stops trying. If you have strength and courage nothing can defeat you unless you let it. You have a choice.

Great Motivational Video: http://youtu.be/hzBCI13rJmA

#30Day Challenges – I can do this…. @BrianTracy #Changeyourthinking #Changeyourlife is a great start!

Back in April I did a 30 day fitness challenge.  I made a point to be active for at least 30 mins a day for 30 days.  It was fantastic!  I actually exceeded my 30 mins on most days but the great thing was I made sure I was active every day.  The funny thing is, I did it for no other reason than to challenge myself.  I didn’t buy anything special as a reward or have a special night out.  I stayed focused and completed it and was so pleased with myself when I did!

May was a busy month so I didn’t continue with the challenge but I’m back at it in June.  Today is day 2 and feel stronger today than I ever have before.

Seeing how that was so successful, I’ve decided to challenge myself to do something that I love. Write.  My goal is to write every day for 30 days – no excuses.  My sister and her friend (who’s like a sister to me..Wendy) and countless others have motivated me to refocus my efforts and share my passion with others. 

With that said, today’s entry is about Change.

As with most people in the world, there is often something in our lives that we would ‘change’ about ourselves or the way we live.  It could be trying to overcome an addiction or something as simple as changing the colour of your hair. It may seem like a difficult decision at first.  It may seem overwhelming when you think about all that needs to be done to make the change happen.  It’s easy to give up on trying to make the change but we have to remember, anything worth changing is worth the challenge.

Regardless of what needs to be done, we have the willpower and courage to overcome it or make the move.  Never second guess yourself and always trust your instincts.  Believe me when I say we are all capable of overcoming our fears.  Fear is just an emotion, it’s not physical. Fear is the enemy of change. Don’t let fear win, change is (often) a good thing.  When you commit to doing something different, and if the choice you make doesn’t take you where you want to go, stay strong, that means it’s only a stepping stone leading you to where you need to be.

Trust and believe in yourself as much as you do in others and you may be surprised how strong (mentally, physically, spiritually and/or emotionally) you truly are. 

Need help on how to accept change? I suggest reading “Change your Thinking, Change your Life by Brian Tracy”, I found it to be helpful when learning how to open my mind to a new way of thinking. 

Embrace change and you will find happiness within.  Happiness isn’t an end goal, it’s a part of the journey.