#TalkAboutItTuesday – 8 Behaviors of Phenomenally Successful People! Courtesy of @Inc

Being successful is a choice. Below, Jeff Haden provides 8 behaviors of Phenomenally Successful People.

You can be an analytical, data-driven, steely-eyed businessperson all you like, but business is ultimately about people.

That means business is also about emotions: yours and those of the people you interact with every day.

Incredibly successful people make a huge difference not just in their own lives but also in the lives of the people they care about, both professionally and personally.

Here’s how:

1. They answer the unasked question.

Maybe she’s hesitant. Maybe he’s insecure, or shy. Whatever the reason, people often ask a different question than the one they really want you to answer.

One employee might ask if you think he should take a few business classes; what he really wants to know is whether you see him as able to grow in the organization. He hopes the answer is yes, and he hopes you’ll share the reasons why.

Your husband might ask if you thought the woman at the party was flirting with him; what he really wants to know is if you still think he’s flirt-worthy and whether you still find him attractive. He hopes you’ll say you do, and he’ll love it when you share the reasons why.

Behind many questions is an unasked question.

Pay attention to that question, too, because that’s the one the other person might really need answered.

2. They refuse to wait.

You don’t have to wait to be discovered. You don’t have to wait for an okay. You don’t have to wait for someone else to help you.

You can try to do whatever you want to do right now. You may not succeed. But you don’t have to wait.

Don’t wait.

3. They appreciate the unappreciated.

Some jobs require more effort than skill. Bagging groceries, delivering packages, checking out customers — the tasks are relatively easy. The difference is in the effort.

Do more than say thanks to someone who does a thankless job. Smile. Make eye contact. Exchange a kind word.

All around you are people who work hard with little or no recognition. Vow to be the person who recognizes at least one of them every day.

Not only will you give respect, you’ll earn the best kind of respect in return — the respect that comes from making a difference, however fleeting, in another person’s life.

4. They give latitude instead of direction.

You’re in charge. You know what to do. So it’s natural to tell your employees what to do and how to do it. But in the process you’ll stifle their creativity and discount their skills and experience.

Letting another person decide how is the best way to show you respect their abilities and trust their judgment.

In a command-and-control world, latitude is a breath of freedom and is a gift anyone can give.

5. They stop and smell their roses.

You have big plans. You have big goals. You’re never satisfied, because satisfaction breeds complacency.

So most of the time you’re unhappy, because you think more about what you have not achieved, have not done, and do not have.

Take a moment to think about what you do have, professionally and especially personally. At this moment you have more than you once ever thought possible.

Sure, always strive for more but don’t forget to take a moment to realize that all the things you have, especially your relationships, are more important than anything you want to have.

Unlike a want, what you have isn’t a hope, a wish, or a dream. What you already have is real.

And it’s awesome. And it’s yours.

Appreciate it.

6. They look beneath the surface.

Sometimes people make mistakes. Sometimes they piss you off.

When that happens it’s natural to assume they didn’t listen or didn’t care. But often there’s a deeper reason. They may feel stifled. They may feel they have no control. They may feel frustrated or marginalized or ignored or not cared for.

If you’re in charge, whether at work or home, you may need to deal with their mistake. But then look past the action for the underlying issues.

Anyone can dole out discipline; vow to provide understanding, empathy, and to help the other person deal with the larger issue that led to the mistake.

After all, you might have caused the issue.

7. They make love a verb.

You love your work. When you’re working, that feeling shows in everything you say and do.

Hmm.

Love is a feeling, and feelings are often selfish. Turn your feelings into action. Actively love the people you love. Show them you love them by words and deeds.

When you make love a verb, the people you care about know exactly how you feel. Make sure they do.

8. They try only to be themselves.

You worry about what other people think. (Don’t feel bad — I’m sure I do that as much as anyone.) Yet no matter how hard you try, you can’t be all things to all people.

But you can be as many things as possible to the people you love.

And you can be the best you.

Be yourself. That is the one thing you can do better than anyone else.

Do you agree?

Source: Inc.com

#SoulfulSundays #MothersDay #AMothersLove

There is no definition for the greatness of a mother.

There’s no gem or jewel as precious as that of a mother’s heart.

There are not enough words to define a mother’s best wishes for her child. 

There is no flower as beautiful as a mother’s soul.

A mother’s love is a life line that supports us through the years.

Unconditional and infinite is my mother’s heart and love.

Happy mothers day to all maternal, paternal, like a mom, step mom, dad’s like a mom and everything in between! 

Mom, I love you.  Thank you for being such a great force and inspiration in my life. You faced adversity and always made sure your children were well taken care of and most of all loved.

Happy Mother’s Day!

#ThankfulThursday #LaughLiveLove

Today I’m thankful for all those who make my life more meaningful.

I have a lot of family and friends who I admire and love with all my heart. Today is dedicated to them all!

I thank you all for your time and appreciation.  You add value to my life and share a happiness with me that words can’t express.

My friends who have become my siblings through love, I thank you for every conversation, every piece of advice, being a shoulder to cry on or rest my head on when I’ve been tired and the tears that turned from sorrow to joy and laughter.

Today and everyday I’m grateful for you all. There’s a lot of change on the horizon…all for the best and I look  forward to walking this journey with you by my side or cheering me on.

It may not make sense to some but it will soon enough.

#LaughLiveLove

#StressFreeSundays #LightsCameraAction #JustDoIt

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For me, Sundays are a time of reflection and planning. As I reflect on the past week I think of all the times I was challenged. I had my patience tried a few times but through all the negativity I managed to separate myself from the emotion of the moment and not take things personal. It’s an amazing experience and liberating feeling when I do this. By releasing the tension it allows me to start planning for the week ahead. I list the top 5 tasks/items I’d like to see completed by the end of the upcoming week and focus on them.

This allows me to focus on working towards accomplishing goals I’ve set out for myself. We all know a house isn’t built overnight, the foundation needs to be set so the house will be a sound structure. This is the approach I’ve recently taken with goals. Take the time to build the foundation and your ventures will have a greater chance of success ultimately allowing you to see your dreams materialize.

Another way to think of it is like filming a movie production. Turn on the lights, that’s when you turn your mind on to you your dream. Cameras are needed to pinpoint the scene, that’s when you focus on your goal at hand. Now the last one needs no explanation, ‘Action’. That’s when you start making it all happen. Don’t worry about how many ‘takes’ and ‘breaks’ you take. Don’t stress on the editing, that’s where you get a chance to revisit your goal and action plan and rework some areas. Just know it will all work out and when it’s all done you’ll be able look at what you’ve created and move on to the sequel or next new production!

Dreams without action are just dreams. Denzel Washington

Stop dreaming big and start doing!!

#TalkAboutItTuesday #BaltimoreRiots #WhatsGoingOn

It’s so sad to see the eruption of violence that has occurred due to the frustrations of voices going unheard.  So much could be said but will it only fall onto deaf ears?  To watch people tear apart their own city is heart breaking but what’s even more disturbing is knowing that after the cameras have gone and the hype is over, who is going to build the city that was just torn down?

All that said, communication is a vital component to potentially defusing explosive reactions. Not just talking but also listening to another person’s view.  You may not agree but in fairness everyone has a voice, everyone should have an opportunity to be heard. Though we often let our emotions guide us in life, talking about matters is better than looking for a rug to sweep matters under.  #TalkAboutItTuesday #AllLivesMatter

#MajesticMondays #BeautyWithin #HoldOn

Flowers don’t truly serve a utilitarian purpose yet they’re one of the most valued items on our earth.  We’re fascinated by the unique beauty each one holds.  What I find fascinating is how they’re delicate to touch yet resilient enough to endure the most extreme weather conditions. Blue_Bird_of_Paradise_by_Massano

We often go through situations in life that will test our endurance and strength.  Much like the flower, in order to make it through trying times and the storms of life, we need to root ourselves to stay grounded, bend and twist to make it through and hold on till the bitter end.  We may get tired along the way but if we take courage and flow with the wind instead of against it, we can make it through the most treacherous conditions.

Stay faithful that the sun will shine again and you’ll look back and see how strong you truly are. #BeMajestic

 

#SaturdayMorningSpecial #NewDayNewStart

If you’ve been reading my blog all week you’ll notice I’ve had a main focus on #MentalHealth. Why? Because, from stress to emotional imbalance to depression and everything in between, it’s something we deal with every day. I want to let people know that they’re not alone in this great big world. There is someone in the world dealing with the exact same issue you are facing. It may differ slightly, it may be called something else in another language, regardless the minor differences, the issue is the same.

Today as I was reflecting about the past week and thinking about what I’m grateful for and what I could do different, this thought ran through my mind.

We often beat ourselves up about past choices and missed opportunities or when an experience feels difficult, we may think about how things use to be ‘easier’. The long and short of it is, we spend time thinking about situations we cannot change and worry about the ‘what if’s’ that haven’t happened.

Try this; take a new sheet of letter sized paper and crumple it up into a ball. Now take that crumpled sheet, straighten and flatten it out into a new piece of paper. You can flatten it out so you can write on it again but you can’t make it look or feel new again. At that point you can make a choice to write and rewrite on that once new but now crumpled sheet of paper or you can get a new sheet and start fresh.

The way I see it is this, the moment we open our eyes to a new day, those first few thoughts when we wake will decide if you should reuse a crumpled sheet of paper which represents past pains and worries or grab a new sheet to organize our thoughts clearly and efficiently.

Too often we reach for that crumpled reused sheet and keep re-writing on until it becomes illegible making it difficult to tell the difference between an old thought from a new experience.

I’ve been guilty of letting negative memories consume me in the past. Thinking of all the things that I didn’t do and concerned about getting an opportunity to do them in the future. Thankfully I’m able to stop the crumpling effect, recognize there is a new sheet and invest time in the moment. It’s taken me my whole life of *classified information* years to learn this. Hopefully it has helped you too! #Thankful #FeelingBlessed

#BeCourageous #BeKind #YoureNotAlone